What flowers to choose for the funeral?
In Russia, it is customary to bring an even number of flowers for funerals, from two to eight. Traditionally in our country dark roses, red carnations and evergreen needles have a mourning character. Their odd number comes from the times of ancient Greece, where an odd number of flowers and gifts were brought to the rulers of the afterlife.
If you were familiar with the deceased and knew which flowers he liked, it’s best to buy an odd number of his favorite buds. The decoration should not be bright rustling wrappers, glitter, and foil. You can tie up the base of the bouquet with black mourning ribbon. Mourning compositions must be concise, low key, strict.
If you doubt which plants to prefer for a bouquet, you can follow generally accepted standards. You can honor the memory of a deceased friend with a bouquet of white chrysanthemums. In our country, dead men are brought flowers of reserved shades, without a sweetish and delicate smell. Scented and pink-tinged buds belong to the funeral tradition of women.
Children who have not done anything wrong in their short life (and up to seven years all children are sinless) bring white or flowers for funerals. Thus, their moral purity, spirituality, bright soul, and angel-likeness are emphasized.
For girls who died at a young age, it is preferable to give flowers white or pale pink. They symbolize chastity, modesty and charm. There is an unspoken rule on the choice of color: the older the deceased person was, the darker the flowers brought to his grave.
In the language of flowers, you can tell about the death of a person. Roses bring to people who perished painfully: this is the scarlet color of blood, and the sharp tearing thorns. Particularly respected, revered and famous people lay carnations (not without reason in our country this flower is considered a symbol of Victory Day and bouquets of carnations are laid to the memorials of military glory). White lilies lay on the grave of those who died in a sinless, young age.
How to give flowers at a funeral
When you enter the hall where the coffin is located with the deceased, you must bring condolences to your loved ones, and then go to the coffin to say goodbye. Individual flowers laid out in a coffin on top of the bedspread, stalks in the direction of the feet. Be sure to close all fresh flowers before closing the lid to get out of the coffin. If you are unable to attend the funeral in person, it’s better to order a mourning basket and attach a card with words of grief.
The standard size of ritual compositions is from 90 cm to 1.8 m, that is, they are quite voluminous. If you do not buy wreaths on the way to the place of service for yourself, then you cannot bring them into the house. Usually they are loaded into the catafal transport along with the coffin by the employees of a ritual agency. Then they place the wreaths on the grave, attach them to the cross. Wreaths are decorated with mourning inscriptions, from which one can understand who and with what feelings presented them.
Mourning wreaths and bouquets – this is the last way to say “thank you” to the deceased. The greater our gratitude to a person, the more luxuriant and more expensive brought flowers for funerals. Flowers, which are accompanied on the last journey, can become irises. In the Christian tradition, they mean sorrow and pain. The leaves, sharp as a spear, symbolize the suffering that the Mother of God experienced during the executions of Christ. Irises brought to the coffin, and not only them, can be of yellow color. This color means separation, as well as the loyalty of the one who gives them. Orchid twigs, asters, chrysanthemums, and callas are quite strict. Colors – any, except screaming and bright. Bouquets in violet tones look mourning and at the same time magnificent.
If you decide to give a bouquet of more than one type of flowers, make sure that the bouquet does not look colorful. Allowed two, a maximum of three similar colors. Motley – a symbol of living colors that are inappropriate in terms of mourning. For people who have a dynamic temper during their lives, it is better to make an asymmetric bouquet. Angular lines will be appropriate for all men and bright women. To the housewives, delicate and feminine nature, preferably rounded shapes, pastel shades. More “masculine” are considered cold shades, more “feminine” – warm. A red bouquet can be given to a deceased beloved person who died, regardless of his gender. Universal color of wilting – orange, associated with the autumn completion of the life cycle.
In the Jewish and Muslim tradition of flowers in the cemetery should not be, because they belong to the world of the living. The Christian tradition endorses not only mourning bouquets, but also fresh flowers that can be planted in the spring on the grave. So you can continue to show concern for the departed person, to express your gratitude to him. Do not forget that all flowers brought to the deceased belong only to him. Take vases into the cemetery in which you can put fresh flowers, in no case leave them at home and do not take them from the cemetery. After a few days, fresh flowers should be removed so that they do not spoil the appearance of the grave. In general, their beauty and fragility, they best symbolize human life.